Reese Witherspoon: ‘I learnt a lot from failed marriage’
Having recently tied the knot with Hollywood agent Jim Toth, screen starlet Reese Witherspoon says she is happy to be giving married life another try after learning valuable lessons from her failed relationship with Ryan Phillippe…
Hollywood actress Reese Witherspoon, 35, has admitted that she never expected to fall in love again after her seven-year marriage to Ryan Phillippe, 36, ended in 2006. The mother-of-two says that, at 24, she was “ridiculously young” when she and Ryan decided to walk down the aisle but believes that the relationship did help her learn a lot – particularly about communicating with your other half.
‘It was a good opportunity for me to really find out what it means to be a partner and to be in a marriage, and it’s not anything I thought it was,” she told UK Elle magazine. “You can’t say, “I don’t want to talk about that” [to your husband]. You just can’t. You’ve got to talk about it all.”
However, the Oscar-winner is confident that life with second husband Jim Toth, who she wed a week ago after a year-long romance, will be far better – although she is surprised that she’s found love again.
She said: “‘You’re surprised somebody wants to be with you because, boy, I’ve got a lot of quirks and wrinkles.”
According to Reese, who plays a 1930s circus worker in her new film Water For Elephants, those quirks are the product of living under the Hollywood limelight: It doesn’t ever stop,’ she adds. ‘Judging. Rejecting. They can really kick ya, you know? You’re constantly criticised. It’s really hard to pick yourself up every day.’
But the blonde beauty insists that life as a Hollywood actress isn’t as glamourous as we may think. The actress, who has two children, Ava, 11, and Deacon, seven, from her relationship with Ryan, said: “There’s this fallacy that we can have it all. I get it often, “Oh, you have it all” – and I don’t. It’s hard. And there are times I take two years off and I don’t work.
“And there are times I go to work and I feel sick because I can’t see my kids for five days. And it’s real hard to go. Work is important to me. The kids are important to me. My relationship’s important to me. But all three can’t be functioning at 100% at all times.”
Read the full interview in the May issue of Elle, out on Wednesday.